#53: How to Give Your Daughter a Competitive Advantage in Sports and Life

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Make sure you’re doing this to give your daughter a competitive advantage not just in her sport, but also in life. 

Competitive advantage is not only physical prowess but it can also be her mental wellness. When your athlete is in top shape physically and mentally, she’ll excel in her sport and in life. She’ll be more motivated to work hard and to work on being healthy and having healthy relationships with her sport, team, and coaches. 

You can get her all the physical training you can get, but that will never prepare her for burnouts, tough decision-making, team conflict, career crisis, and more. It’s important that your athlete has the passion and drive to keep being motivated in her sport. This is how she’ll perform her best, feel her best, and truly love playing her sport.

Today, I want to talk about how you can give your athlete a competitive advantage not just in sports, but in life.

Competitive Advantage:

  • Perform Consistently
  • Perform to potential
  • Have an edge

When it comes to giving our daughters a competitive advantage, many immediately go to physical training:

  • More reps
  • Personal trainer
  • More time in the gym
  • These things do help! But it’s what every athlete does.

Because a lot of us parents want our athletes to be the best that they can be in their sport. And physical training is absolutely necessary. It helps them be active and healthy as well. 

But, more reps WON’T…

  • Help her with the pressure
  • Give her the skill to come back from mistakes
  • Advocate for herself
  • Uncover the limiting beliefs that are holding her back
  • Shift self-talk

Physical strength isn’t everything in sports.

Our athletes have competitions against their opponents and against themselves. Here’s the deal…100% of athletes face these things:

  • Pre-game nerves
  • Mistakes
  • Pressure situations
  • Peer pressure
  • Comparison
  • Not feeling good enough
  • Not wanting to let people down

These are COMMON struggles. EVERY athlete at EVERY level faces them.

Whether they are beginners and are still improving their performance or they are at the top of their team with achievement after achievement trailing them; EVERY athlete is prone to these struggles. 

However, some athletes are equipped to handle these things, and some aren’t.

And the athletes that know how to handle these situations have a competitive advantage. Athletes that are mentally trained properly will know how to handle pressure, burnout, stress, anxiety, and more. This is an advantage in her sport and she can carry this with her in her professional career as well as in her everyday life.

That is exactly how you can give your daughter a competitive advantage.

By not just investing in her physical training, but her mental training as well.

Confidence is a skill. Performing under pressure is a skill.

Reframe thoughts, routines for pressure, visualization, breathwork, meditation.

If you push your athlete to physical training without regard for her mental well-being, chances are, she’ll crumble under the pressure before she could even compete. That’s how important training her emotional and mental health is.

It doesn’t matter how good an athlete is. You can have all the training in the world, but if you put them side by side… if one has the mental game to perform and the other doesn’t, guess who will win every time?

Here’s an email that we received from one of the moms in the program and it shows how much of an impact mental health has in an athlete’s sport: 

“I wanted to let you know this program has had an immediate and substantial impact on my daughter, Emily Owen. We have struggled with perfectionism and bouncing back from defeat for a LONG time. I can tell a difference in how she responds on the court. I see her talking to herself and staying upbeat despite having a mediocre game last week. It has been a game-changer (no pun intended). So thank you for your program!!

The fact she is learning AND applying your strategies at age 12 puts her so far ahead of the game in my opinion. She has really embraced your program. She looks forward to the new modules and even bought a special notebook to take notes. She usually has 3 pages of notes after each module.”

Emily is a perfect example of keeping your head in the game. Having the right mental training will give you an edge and prepare you for anything that may come your way. Exposing your daughter to mental training will not only be what separates her from her competition but will also equip her for life.

With proper mental training your daughter will achieve these wins: 

  • Make better decisions
  • Take healthy risks
  • Have better relationships
  • Have better body image
  • Equipped to handle adversity

Some people think, “is it really worth it to invest in something like this?” We spend so much money on teams, equipment, etc. But those are not the only thing that your athlete needs. Sure, equipment and all can help her further her progress and training but being mentally equipped prepares her for the things that life may throw at her. Things that are not included in her physical training. 

How much is it worth to…

  • Have peace of mind knowing that your daughter knows how to navigate the challenges that WILL come up for her on the court. Not sheltering her, but giving her the tools that she can use on her own to get through it.
  • Have the confidence that your daughter will make good decisions. When she is in a situation where she feels uncomfortable, at a party or with a partner, she trusts herself to get out. Again, we can’t shelter her from every situation that she might be in. So, we might as well know that we’ve done all we can to equip her to trust herself.
  • Know that she is choosing relationships based on who she wants to surround herself with and has the confidence to leave the ones that make her feel “less than”.
  • Have her feel confident in her body. Loving her body for what it is, not for what it looks like.

So, to recap. If you want your daughter to have a competitive advantage in her sport and in life, investing her in mental skills is where it’s at. 

Can we agree that equipping your daughter with the skill of confidence so she can navigate life is 100% worth it? Personally, I can’t think of anything more important.

I get asked a lot how moms can help with this. Joining our trainings is a great first step!


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