Elite Competitor Society member, Cheryl, asks: My daughter holds back on defense (soccer) because she doesn’t want her teammates to think she’s coming in too strong or being too intense. It’s almost as if she sees playing aggressively as a negative. What is the best way to overcome this? For an opportunity to have your […]

  After my senior year in high school, I quit playing volleyball.  It was a shock to many of my coaches, teammates, and parents. Mostly because I was destined to play in college, somewhere.  There was pressure coming from all directions to be successful at the next level. It wasn’t a matter of if I […]

  High expectations are something that many female athletes struggle with. Many athletes feel like there are so many expectations for them to perform well and if they don’t, then they are letting people down – their teammates, their coaches, their parents, and themselves. I hear this a lot! Then I hear parents comment that their daughter’s are putting […]

  I have yet to meet a female athlete that doesn’t struggle with some aspect of perfectionism.  It’s pretty common, in fact. Athletes want to do well. They want to constantly be improving. They want to hit new levels of performance.  This is all GREAT and necessary. However, there’s a fine line between healthy striving […]

  How often have you seen this scenario with your female athlete… She had a pretty good game. Maybe she competed well and did a lot of great things. However, she can’t stop thinking and talking about that ONE mistake she made.  She’s playing it over and over in her head and beating herself up.  […]